It’s Time To Get Honest

Named after the site. I have developed (or perhaps increased my intolerance) of the falsehoods, denying, lying, pompous attitudes, and abuse that goes on in this world. Specifically in the online world and by men. Here I will share open, brave, beautiful, real, raw, gutsy, brave, sad, and “say it like it is” stuff. Always honestly.

Free for a minute – Creative writing

I realized today,

that perhaps

the best gift

I could ever get

is a few minutes of freedom.

Just a little bit of time,

free of the overwhelming expectations,

rules,

judgements,

bad assumptions,

blame,

or guilt

that occupies,

every minute,

every day,

every night.

 

Freedom to be me as I am.

Freedom to feel like I do.

Freedom to do want I want.

Freedom to say what comes to mind.

Freedom to go wherever I want.

Freedom to be with whoever I want.

Freedom to have my opinion.

Freedom from guilt about things that aren’t my fault.

Freedom from shame for things that happened, things I did and mostly things I didn’t do.

Freedom from false judgement.

Freedom to look like I do.

Freedom to exist.

 

Maybe this is too hard to explain,

how could you ever understand

my desperate want,

maybe need,

to be free

to just be me

as I am,

naturally,

and still,

be accepted,

wanted,

and have a place in the world.

 

Submitted by Julie to be published under, It’s Time To Get Honest, name.

Finding your way forward

 

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Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD).

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Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is a condition that results from chronic or long-term exposure to emotional trauma over which a victim has little or no control and from which there is little or no hope of escape, such as in cases of:

  • domestic emotional, physical or sexual abuse
  • childhood emotional, physical or sexual abuse
  • entrapment or kidnapping.
  • slavery or enforced labour.
  • long-term imprisonment and torture
  • repeated violations of personal boundaries.
  • long-term objectification.
  • exposure to gaslighting & false accusations
  • long-term exposure to inconsistent, push-pull, splitting or alternating raging & hoovering behaviours.
  • long-term taking care of mentally ill or chronically sick family members.
  • long-term exposure to crisis conditions.

When people have been trapped in a situation over which they had little or no control at the beginning, middle or end, they can carry an intense sense of dread even after that situation is removed. This is because they know how bad things can possibly be. And they know that it could possibly happen again. And they know that if it ever does happen again, it might be worse than before.

C-PTSD – What it Feels Like:

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel un-centred and shaky as if they are likely to have an embarrassing emotional breakdown or burst into tears at any moment. They may feel unloved – or that nothing they can accomplish is ever going to be “good enough” for others.

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel compelled to get away from others and be by themselves so that no-one will witness what may come next. They may feel afraid to form close friendships to prevent possible loss should another catastrophe strike.

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel that everything is just about to go “out the window” and that they will not be able to handle even the simplest task. They may be too distracted by what is going on at home to focus on being successful at school or in the workplace.

Read more at…Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)

How To Cope During The Worst Moments Of Your Life.

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“Experiencing overwhelming pain doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to sketch new thoughts or paint new memories because pain can be as transformative as the art on a torn canvas.

It can make you appreciate all the small joys you’d never think to relish.

You are forced to remember the things you took for granted, the ones that appeared minuscule, and realize their larger-than-life roles in the grand scheme of things.”

Read more at: Read This During The Worst Moments Of Your Life | ThoughtCatalogue

Coping During Trauma Moments.

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“The truth is, what feels like your crucifixion doesn’t have any quick fixes, only slow movements in a never-ending dance.

Time or words alone can’t always soothe the wounds that can’t be put into language.

Trauma can speak in a foreign tongue and weave its code into every cell – this is the type of pain where the body and the mind both keep the score.

Sometimes the only band-aids you have are platitudes mixed with the raw truth.

Those days where you feel like you won’t survive and the days where you learn you can, and all the beautifully horrific moments in between.”

An edited excerpt from; Read This During The Worst Moments Of Your Life | Thought Catalogue

Like No Lover Ever Did.

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“Windows slammed shut; curtains drawn together, the pounding chaos of the world retreats into out-there.

Daggers of past pain blocked by layers of glass and fabric. The land of crazy-making finally dulled to a harmless roar.

Silly yammering from the TV spills out ironic normalcy.

A blanket’s softness wraps around, warming her like no lover ever did.

Dimmed lights issue a calm that settles, easing her pounding heart.

Sweet baby offers comfort, love, and purrs of content and companionship.

The time finally slows down to a repetitive, peaceful, tic; no longer spinning out of control.”

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Peace Of Mind Is Precious – Quote

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“Peace of mind is a precious thing. Protect it at all costs!”

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Some People Will Always Be Critical ~ Quote

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“Some people will be critical no matter what you do. Don’t take it personally. It’s more about them than you.”

The Story Of Your Life

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“When writing the story of your life don’t let anyone else hold the pen.” via Honesty Warrior

Life Is A Gift ~ Quote

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Life Is A Gift. ~ via Honesty Warrior