“Normally when we think about “PTSD,” our minds jump to those who’ve been in combat. While it is certainly an issue for those who’ve been in real-life war zones, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex PTSD aren’t just exclusive to war veterans. In fact, many survivors of childhood emotional neglect, physical or emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual assault and rape can suffer from the symptoms of PTSD or Complex PTSD if they endured long-standing, ongoing and inescapable trauma.
These individuals face combat and battle in invisible war zones that are nonetheless traumatic and potentially damaging. According to the National Center for PTSD, about 8 million people can develop PTSD every year and women are twice as likely than men to experience these symptoms.”
Awareness of narcissistic abuse and its effects is quickly becoming more and more widespread. As the survivor community grows online in blogs, forums, Instagram pages, Facebook communities and across real-life communities, the number of “healers” and “gurus” who purport to help survivors on their journey continues to expand as well.
While there are many incredible therapists, coaches, spiritual guides, authors, bloggers and advocates in a number of different fields who can provide a great deal of rich wisdom to the survivor community, there are also predators who mask themselves as healers in order to gain narcissistic supply (praise, admiration and/or resources).
When consulting these resources, it is important to distinguish between authentic advocates who genuinely want to help and those who are looking to exploit survivors at their most vulnerable stage of the healing journey.
Things To Look Out For And Avoid;
-They engage in monopolization and sabotage of any perceived competitors.
-They charge excessive costs in exchange for minimum value.
-They exhibit a “their way or the highway” philosophy rather than the idea that “it takes a village.”
-They participate in unethical practices and violation of boundaries.
-They provide false hope and egregiously improbable promises.
“I remember going to one of those group things and another woman shared how she used to wish sometimes that her partner would just shut up and take a swing at her because then she could finally walk out. Cause we all know that hitting and physical abuse is wrong but it can be so damn hard sometimes when you’re stuck in the mess of it all to know if the verbal shit has gone too far. I could really relate to what she was saying.” By Chanty (offered via promise of anonymity)