“One of the hardest things to do in life, is letting go of what you thought was real.”
‘If you wish to be a warrior prepare to get broken, if you wish to be an explorer prepare to get lost and if you wish to be a lover prepare to be both.”
Awareness of narcissistic abuse and its effects is quickly becoming more and more widespread. As the survivor community grows online in blogs, forums, Instagram pages, Facebook communities and across real-life communities, the number of “healers” and “gurus” who purport to help survivors on their journey continues to expand as well.
While there are many incredible therapists, coaches, spiritual guides, authors, bloggers and advocates in a number of different fields who can provide a great deal of rich wisdom to the survivor community, there are also predators who mask themselves as healers in order to gain narcissistic supply (praise, admiration and/or resources).
When consulting these resources, it is important to distinguish between authentic advocates who genuinely want to help and those who are looking to exploit survivors at their most vulnerable stage of the healing journey.
Things To Look Out For And Avoid;
-They engage in monopolization and sabotage of any perceived competitors.
-They charge excessive costs in exchange for minimum value.
-They exhibit a “their way or the highway” philosophy rather than the idea that “it takes a village.”
-They participate in unethical practices and violation of boundaries.
-They provide false hope and egregiously improbable promises.
“Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.”
“This morning I woke up and reminded myself that my soul is fucking beautiful, my mind is fucking powerful, my heart is made of fucking gold, and I’ve got so many damn good things going for me that I literally do not need anyone who isn’t going to love me the way that I fucking deserve to be loved.”
Perhaps the saddest thing about toxic relationships and long-term interactions with toxic people is that the victim will eventually believe that they are a victim with no way out.
Plus, they often end up gaslighting themselves because they ‘ve adapted to questioning themselves constantly as their default mindset.
“Re-learning healthy self-esteem and emotional strength is a long and difficult process. But you will be unstoppable when you succeed.”
“Sometimes you need to walk away. Not to make someone else realize how worthy you are. But for YOU to understand and acknowledge your own self-worth.”
“Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“You see a person’s true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life.”
“I’m learning how to walk away from situations or people who threaten my peace of mind, self-respect, or self-worth.”
“There is a difference between giving up and knowing when you have had enough.”
“People will take from you until there’s no more of you left.”
“If I could go back to the day we met, I would turn around and walk away.”
“Have a nice life. I’m done trying to be in it.”
“No matter how badly people treat you, never drop down to their level. Just know you’re better and walk away.”
In depression, everything is pain.
Even showers are pain.
Water hitting your skin hurts,
seeing your naked body disgusts.
It’s all pain.
Inspired by the writing of Natasha Tracy and her incredible book, Lost Marbles, which we highly recommend as a must read to everyone who has depression and/or bipolar disorder AND their loved ones.