Just keep breathing

Just keep breathing…


We love this scene and the incredible wisdom it offers for everyone during those times that feel unbearable.

“keep breathing” by Tom Hanks as Chuck Noland in Castaway.

Getting your soul right!

Finding your way forward


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Help If You Are In A (Possibly) Abusive Situation.


Knowing if you’re in an abusive situation or relationship can sometimes be hard. You may feel as if something is really wrong, but maybe you’re still questioning or blaming yourself.

“If I tried harder,” or “is my relationship too important to abandon,” are frequent thoughts you may be having.

But either way, if you’re in a stressful or dangerous situation, you need to look after yourself and get some help.

There is a unique resource that can help you. It’s called One Love.

What is particularly impressive about One Love is that they not only offer a lot of articles about relationships but they also have a My Plan, App.

Please check out this resource if you need help or are even just thinking you might need help.

Note: If you are in imminent danger call, 911 immediately.

Additional Note: One Love is located in the USA but is available worldwide.

What Depression Looks Like In Real Life.


Some people believe that depression is merely the blues, or feeling blah, and thinking negatively. These same people will often be the ones to suggest that if you think more positively or just get outside or exercise it will improve.


Depression is a chemical reaction and disturbance in your brain that can’t be shaken away with a few positive thoughts or sweaty exercises.

Even if the depression is the natural result of illness, trauma, or any toxic occurrence the brain has been chemically changed. It’s never in the person’s imagination or because of their attitude!

Depression is real and it hurts like a bitch.

Unlike an image that went around the web a while ago which showed depression as feeling like watching paint dry, depression is much more aggressive, damaging, and just as painful as anything physical injury.

Depression changes the way you think which in turn affects how you feel.

Here are some REAL symptoms and examples of depression and how it looks in real life;

  • An apathy that can be so overwhelming that the person can’t roll over in bed or get up to go to the bathroom.
  • Constant feelings of immense doom.
  • Periods of severe agitation and anger.
  • Periods of extreme exhaustion and weakness.
  • An underlying,  persistent, and severe, self-hatred.
  • Constant overwhelming guilt.
  • A gut-wrenching sadness that can’t be relieved.
  • A tremendous fear of having to continue to live like this and an overbearing fear of death at the same time.
  • Physical pains of many kinds.
  • Oversleeping and insomnia.
  • Overeating and not being able to eat.
  • Crying that won’t stop and feels as if one’s soul is broken.
  • Immense feelings of abandonment and loneliness.
  • Extreme ruminating.
  • Not being able to stop damaging thought-cycles.
  • Unreal perceptions of doom, rejection, and paranoia.

Despite all of the above, in atypical depression, there may be moments of being okay, like laughing at a joke from a friend. If a depressed person experiences breakthroughs like this it does not mean they are faking it or are all better.

Depressed people aren’t selfish, or self-centered, they’re sick. And sick of being sick.

Depression is real; it’s like having a virus inside you that is continually pumping its venom through you, and it won’t retreat.

Of course, there are many other symptoms that can be attributed to depression, but above are listed some of the lesser-acknowledged ones.

If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these symptoms, don’t ignore them thinking that they will go away. Get them help.

Because depression is a killer, literally.

To All Emotionally Women Broken From An Abusive Relationship. – Shahida Arabi.


“This is for you, the one whose soul is weary, whose heart is battered, whose wounds may be invisible but just as devastating. The one who is tired of the endless, nonsensical arguments. The one is exhausted from trying to salvage something that is slowly killing her day in and day out. I want you to remember your worth and purpose in this world. I want you to reawaken your power.

I want you to know that it is okay to leave the people who are harming you. It is okay to not be okay for a while. It’s okay to take the time to be alone and rebuild the life you seek.

I want you to savor the beauty of your solitude, no matter what your relationship status. I want you to be a fighter in a world that teaches women they are only valuable if they are chosen by a man. I want you to inspire those around you by speaking so gently and lovingly to yourself that the cruelty and judgment of others melts away into the distance. I want all your naysayers to be overshadowed by the wildness of your strength. I want you to be the warrior woman they never saw coming.”

read more at For All The Women Broken By An Emotionally Abusive Relationship | Thought Catalog

How ‘The Silent Treatment’ And Stonewalling Are Abusive.


Has someone close to you ever ignored you when you tried to have an important discussion or addressed something significant with them? Have you ever been silenced by a toxic person’s silent treatment? You may have experienced what is known as “stonewalling.”

According to researcher Dr. Gottesman, there are “four men of the apocalypse” or four communication styles in a relationship that can predict its inevitable demise. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

Stonewalling is when a person withdraws from a conversation or discussion and refuses to address your concerns.

Usually, stonewalling and the silent treatment go hand in hand. After the victim has been stonewalled, the other person is treated to a form of silence that is deafening. Yet the silent treatment can also occur without warning or stonewalling as well.

“In relationships, stonewalling is the emotional equivalent to cutting off someone’s oxygen.  The emotional detachment inherent to stonewalling is a form of abandonment and the effect that it has on a spouse is dramatic.

The initial feelings of terror – which are usually below the water line of awareness – are typically followed by secondary feelings of anger and, then, aggressive efforts to get some emotional reaction – any emotional reaction – even a negative one.  And when these efforts fail, the internal response for your spouse is predictable.  He doesn’t care.  He doesn’t love me.  He’s left me.” – Jeffrey J. Pipe, Psy.D, Stonewalling vs. Empathy

The silent treatment and stonewalling can have actual effects on the brain. Research indicates that such behaviours are a form of ostracism which activates the anterior cingulate cortex, the same part of the brain that detects physical pain.

The silent treatment and stonewalling can have actual effects on the brain. Research indicates that such behaviours are a form of ostracism which activates the anterior cingulate cortex, the same part of the brain that detects physical pain.

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What Is PTSD And C-PTSD In Real Life?


“Normally when we think about “PTSD,” our minds jump to those who’ve been in combat. While it is certainly an issue for those who’ve been in real-life war zones, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex PTSD aren’t just exclusive to war veterans. In fact, many survivors of childhood emotional neglect, physical or emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual assault and rape can suffer from the symptoms of PTSD or Complex PTSD if they endured long-standing, ongoing and inescapable trauma.

These individuals face combat and battle in invisible war zones that are nonetheless traumatic and potentially damaging. According to the National Center for PTSD, about 8 million people can develop PTSD every year and women are twice as likely than men to experience these symptoms.”

read more at PTSD And Complex PTSD: What Happens When You’ve Lived In A Psychological War Zone | Thought Catalog

This Is How You Will Hurt – Nikita Gill


This is how you will hurt.

It will be a sunny day and you are still in your room, your curtains drawn to keep the light out, your body shaking under a blanket that just won’t warm you up, but then again, you haven’t felt warm since the day it happened. It is like he took every bit of warmth from your soul, and the only way you will ever feel warm again is if the entire sun grew inside of you.

Your mother is knocking on the door. You pretend you don’t hear her. Your greatest deception since it happened is trying so hard to be normal, and today you do not have the energy for it.

Today, you are going to stare into the darkest corner of your room and wonder why the darkness doesn’t do you a favour and swallow you whole.

read more at Trauma: This Is How You Will Hurt | Thought Catalog

Toxic Relationships, Red Flags, And Self-Care.


Healthy relationships don’t come with handbooks, and there are no courses or tests to make sure that everyone is fit.

Plus, sadly, many of us were brought up in dysfunctional environments and end up repeating negative patterns taught to us at a young age. Because of this we often pick the wrong people to share our lives with and end up in toxic relationships.

Read moreToxic Relationships, Red Flags, And Self-Care.