Just keep breathing

Just keep breathing…


We love this scene and the incredible wisdom it offers for everyone during those times that feel unbearable.

“keep breathing” by Tom Hanks as Chuck Noland in Castaway.

Free for a minute – Creative writing

I realized today,

that perhaps

the best gift

I could ever get

is a few minutes of freedom.

Just a little bit of time,

free of the overwhelming expectations,



bad assumptions,


or guilt

that occupies,

every minute,

every day,

every night.


Freedom to be me as I am.

Freedom to feel like I do.

Freedom to do want I want.

Freedom to say what comes to mind.

Freedom to go wherever I want.

Freedom to be with whoever I want.

Freedom to have my opinion.

Freedom from guilt about things that aren’t my fault.

Freedom from shame for things that happened, things I did and mostly things I didn’t do.

Freedom from false judgement.

Freedom to look like I do.

Freedom to exist.


Maybe this is too hard to explain,

how could you ever understand

my desperate want,

maybe need,

to be free

to just be me

as I am,


and still,

be accepted,


and have a place in the world.


Submitted by Julie to be published under, It’s Time To Get Honest, name.

Getting your soul right!

Finding your way forward


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Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD).


Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is a condition that results from chronic or long-term exposure to emotional trauma over which a victim has little or no control and from which there is little or no hope of escape, such as in cases of:

  • domestic emotional, physical or sexual abuse
  • childhood emotional, physical or sexual abuse
  • entrapment or kidnapping.
  • slavery or enforced labour.
  • long-term imprisonment and torture
  • repeated violations of personal boundaries.
  • long-term objectification.
  • exposure to gaslighting & false accusations
  • long-term exposure to inconsistent, push-pull, splitting or alternating raging & hoovering behaviours.
  • long-term taking care of mentally ill or chronically sick family members.
  • long-term exposure to crisis conditions.

When people have been trapped in a situation over which they had little or no control at the beginning, middle or end, they can carry an intense sense of dread even after that situation is removed. This is because they know how bad things can possibly be. And they know that it could possibly happen again. And they know that if it ever does happen again, it might be worse than before.

C-PTSD – What it Feels Like:

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel un-centred and shaky as if they are likely to have an embarrassing emotional breakdown or burst into tears at any moment. They may feel unloved – or that nothing they can accomplish is ever going to be “good enough” for others.

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel compelled to get away from others and be by themselves so that no-one will witness what may come next. They may feel afraid to form close friendships to prevent possible loss should another catastrophe strike.

People who suffer from C-PTSD may feel that everything is just about to go “out the window” and that they will not be able to handle even the simplest task. They may be too distracted by what is going on at home to focus on being successful at school or in the workplace.

Read more at…Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)

Write The Poems. (Excerpt).


“The nutritionist said I should eat root vegetables.
Said if I could get down thirteen turnips a day
I would be grounded, rooted.
Said my head would not keep flying away
to where the darkness lives.

The psychic told me my heart carries too much weight.
Said for twenty dollars she’d tell me what to do.
I handed her the twenty. She said, “Stop worrying, darling.
You will find a good man soon.”

The first psychotherapist told me to spend
three hours each day sitting in a dark closet
with my eyes closed and ears plugged.
I tried it once but couldn’t stop thinking
about how gay it was to be sitting in the closet.

The yogi told me to stretch everything but the truth.
Said to focus on the out breath. Said everyone finds happiness
when they care more about what they give
than what they get.

The pharmacist said, “Lexapro, Lamictal, Lithium, Xanax.”

The doctor said an antipsychotic might help me
forget what the trauma said.

The trauma said, “Don’t write these poems.
Nobody wants to hear you cry
about the grief inside your bones.”

But my bones said, “Tyler Clementi jumped
from the George Washington Bridge
into the Hudson River convinced
he was entirely alone.”

My bones said, “Write the poems.”
― Andrea Gibson, The Madness Vase

Help If You Are In A (Possibly) Abusive Situation.


Knowing if you’re in an abusive situation or relationship can sometimes be hard. You may feel as if something is really wrong, but maybe you’re still questioning or blaming yourself.

“If I tried harder,” or “is my relationship too important to abandon,” are frequent thoughts you may be having.

But either way, if you’re in a stressful or dangerous situation, you need to look after yourself and get some help.

There is a unique resource that can help you. It’s called One Love.

What is particularly impressive about One Love is that they not only offer a lot of articles about relationships but they also have a My Plan, App.

Please check out this resource if you need help or are even just thinking you might need help.

Note: If you are in imminent danger call, 911 immediately.

Additional Note: One Love is located in the USA but is available worldwide.

What Depression Looks Like In Real Life.


Some people believe that depression is merely the blues, or feeling blah, and thinking negatively. These same people will often be the ones to suggest that if you think more positively or just get outside or exercise it will improve.


Depression is a chemical reaction and disturbance in your brain that can’t be shaken away with a few positive thoughts or sweaty exercises.

Even if the depression is the natural result of illness, trauma, or any toxic occurrence the brain has been chemically changed. It’s never in the person’s imagination or because of their attitude!

Depression is real and it hurts like a bitch.

Unlike an image that went around the web a while ago which showed depression as feeling like watching paint dry, depression is much more aggressive, damaging, and just as painful as anything physical injury.

Depression changes the way you think which in turn affects how you feel.

Here are some REAL symptoms and examples of depression and how it looks in real life;

  • An apathy that can be so overwhelming that the person can’t roll over in bed or get up to go to the bathroom.
  • Constant feelings of immense doom.
  • Periods of severe agitation and anger.
  • Periods of extreme exhaustion and weakness.
  • An underlying,  persistent, and severe, self-hatred.
  • Constant overwhelming guilt.
  • A gut-wrenching sadness that can’t be relieved.
  • A tremendous fear of having to continue to live like this and an overbearing fear of death at the same time.
  • Physical pains of many kinds.
  • Oversleeping and insomnia.
  • Overeating and not being able to eat.
  • Crying that won’t stop and feels as if one’s soul is broken.
  • Immense feelings of abandonment and loneliness.
  • Extreme ruminating.
  • Not being able to stop damaging thought-cycles.
  • Unreal perceptions of doom, rejection, and paranoia.

Despite all of the above, in atypical depression, there may be moments of being okay, like laughing at a joke from a friend. If a depressed person experiences breakthroughs like this it does not mean they are faking it or are all better.

Depressed people aren’t selfish, or self-centered, they’re sick. And sick of being sick.

Depression is real; it’s like having a virus inside you that is continually pumping its venom through you, and it won’t retreat.

Of course, there are many other symptoms that can be attributed to depression, but above are listed some of the lesser-acknowledged ones.

If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these symptoms, don’t ignore them thinking that they will go away. Get them help.

Because depression is a killer, literally.

How To Cope During The Worst Moments Of Your Life.


“Experiencing overwhelming pain doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to sketch new thoughts or paint new memories because pain can be as transformative as the art on a torn canvas.

It can make you appreciate all the small joys you’d never think to relish.

You are forced to remember the things you took for granted, the ones that appeared minuscule, and realize their larger-than-life roles in the grand scheme of things.”

Read more at: Read This During The Worst Moments Of Your Life | ThoughtCatalogue

Coping During Trauma Moments.


“The truth is, what feels like your crucifixion doesn’t have any quick fixes, only slow movements in a never-ending dance.

Time or words alone can’t always soothe the wounds that can’t be put into language.

Trauma can speak in a foreign tongue and weave its code into every cell – this is the type of pain where the body and the mind both keep the score.

Sometimes the only band-aids you have are platitudes mixed with the raw truth.

Those days where you feel like you won’t survive and the days where you learn you can, and all the beautifully horrific moments in between.”

An edited excerpt from; Read This During The Worst Moments Of Your Life | Thought Catalogue